We think the pursuit of perfection is the pursuit of the best. We are convinced it is a noble quest. But in reality, we are only pursuing the worst.
A perfectionist is never content. We nitpick our efforts. We don’t acknowledge what we do well, but rather we scrutinize how we can improve.
We are always comparing ourselves to others – and falling short. Perfectionism breeds envy and jealousy. And if perchance we discover we might be “better than…” then perfectionism breeds judgment and pride.
Perfectionism cultivates negative self-talk, which sends us further into a downward spiral.
We are what we think (Buddha)
As a man thinketh in his heart, so he becomes (Proverbs 23:7)
If I think I am a fraud… If I think I am a failure… If I think I am worthless… Then I believe the lies.
This is not only harmful to self – this is harmful to those around me. How has my negative self-image affected my children? Do they think this is the way to live the Christian life? Do they believe”denying self” means rejecting self?
What a tragedy!
At this point, it is time I ask, What benefit is there to perfectionism? And if there is no benefit, why do I continue in this fruitless pursuit?
If we are what we think, then I need to adjust my thinking. I must drown Delilah’s harsh criticism with positive edification. Delilah’s lies must be replaced with truth.