I have participated in Ali Edward’s One Little Word (OLW) movement since 2013.
Previous yearly one-words included: Balance – Peace – Delight – FUN – Nourish – SP-ACE
This year’s one word chose me: CONFIDENCE
Throughout 2018 I slowly developed the courage to confront Delilah (my harsh inner-critic). Since Delilah fuels Impostor Syndrome, she hinders me from achieving my full potential. And I’m not going to take it anymore!
I used to think confidence was synonymous with being arrogant, conceited, and a braggart. My parochial school upbringing taught me these inherent evils. These qualities promote self-centeredness rather than selflessness. Humility is the desired Christian virtue.
But my knowledge of humility was equally flawed.
I thought true humility was thinking less (or nothing) of myself; self-care was a prideful waste of time. While I believed the Lord bestows unique gifts and talents to everyone … I also believed acknowledging those gifts was the first step toward the inevitable prideful fall.
What these well-meaning religious teachers failed to explain in a way I understood was this:
Confidence is believing God has already equipped me to accomplish what He has called me to do.
While I may not feel qualified to write or teach or speak at conferences, that does not discount the fact that God is able to do exceedingly and abundantly more than I can imagine.
So ultimately… this is a question of faith. Do I really believe God is able to do what He claims?
If the answer is yes… then it is time to act like it.
Lately, I’ve observed a few confident friends I admire. Here’s what I’ve noticed:
- Confident people are attractive. They stand taller. They smile more. They speak with boldness because they know what they have to say can be useful.
- Confident people exude joy because they know they are doing what they are called to do. They utilize their gifts to follow their passion. They don’t shy away from risks; they boldly reach for the moon, knowing if they miss they will still land among the stars.
- Confident people learn from others. They help others. They befriend others. But they do not compare themselves with others because they know… comparison is the thief of joy.
- Confident people do not live in a perpetual state of fear. They do not worry what others think. They do not worry they might fail; they view failure as one more step toward success. They acknowledge and accept their limitations as graciously as they acknowledge their gifts and talents.
- Confident people do not second (or third or fourth) guess their decisions. They are rational thinkers, but they are not afraid to act. They understand that life is all about the journey, not the destination.
- Confident people understand what is within their control and focus on SMART goals within this sphere. They also understand that specific results are often outside their control, and they don’t let these numbers bog them down. They understand if they do the work, results will inevitably follow.
As I hinted last week… I have lots of plans for 2019, which I will reveal soon. However, I know to make this a great year, I need to develop a healthy sense of confidence. Let the makeover begin!